Being Totally Honest

My friend Danielle Smith wrote a brutally honest blog post today.

Take a minute to read her post first – Honesty, Take 2: I Still Believe. Actually, I’d suggest reading “Take 1” – You want Honest? I’ll give you honest – first. Either way, read both.

Okay. Pretty honest words, right?

While ready both of Danielle’s posts, I found myself nodding … and nodding … and nodding.

In fact, I may have even blurted out an AMEN (the non-religious kind).

Who is with me? Can I get an AMEN! (ha)

This quote in particular stood out to me:

And I’m suddenly trapped in that jagged space between ‘I’ve totally got this covered’ and ‘there is no way I can do this’. And that feeling often leads to an immobility I liken to the sensation of something dark and heavy sitting on my chest.

Man. Been there. Too often.

Danielle included an image with an amazingly simple, yet powerful quote: Do not compare your insides to someone else’s outsides.

The quote I found below pretty much says the same thing. It’s worth reading the post where I found this image too. Pretty awesome – and honest: Finding the line between inspiring others and being supremely annoying.

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My Turn To Be Honest

Now it’s my turn. I’m going to follow Danielle’s lead and also be brutally honest.

Deep breath.

Here we go.

In no particular order …

Sometimes I feel overwhelmed, like there is so much on my plate that I need a bigger plate.

Sometimes that feeling of being overwhelmed is paralyzing. I have so much work to do that I freeze … and do nothing. This, of course, makes it worse as the work piles up.

Sometimes I go to Facebook and Twitter as my escape.

Sometimes I check my email or do other things that don’t really matter … while I’m “spending time” with my children.

Sometimes I have kick ass meetings with my clients. Sometimes I totally bomb it.

Sometimes I have bad days.

Sometimes I obsessively refresh my email.

Sometimes I text while I drive.

Sometimes I’m the best father and the best husband in the world – the most patient, the most caring, the most attentive, the most loving. Sometimes I’m not.

Sometimes I lose focus and do whatever I can to avoid what I should be doing.

Sometimes I eat like crap.

Sometimes I forget to exercise.

Sometimes I exercise to avoid doing something else.

Sometimes I say yes to everything, even those things I should definitely say no too.

Sometimes I spend way too much time on what’s not really important and not enough time on what matters.

Sometimes I complain.

Sometimes I “pretend productivity.” (just like Danielle admitted to)

Sometimes I check my email from the bathroom.

Sometimes I don’t watch the news because I want to be blissfully ignorant.

Sometimes I eat an entire carton of ice cream.

I’m not perfect. I’ve admitted that before.

But dammit. I will not give up. I will not keep pushing and pushing. I will allow myself to have “off” days and even “off” weeks. I will take a nap on occasion. I’ll drink a Coke every so often.

I will continue to strive to make the world a better place for everyone. I will continue to fight for what I believe is right. I will continue to be honest.

What about you?

DJ Waldow
Waldow Social
@djwaldow

10 comments
teddy99s
teddy99s

I agree with DanielleSmithTV1 that I love everything about this.  EVERYTHING.  Thank you for adding your words and your heart to mine today.  I'm so grateful.  There is something so.... so AWESOME about knowing we all have these moments - the napping, non-exercising, bad-eating, immobile, I-guess-I'll-check-Facebook-instead moments.  I'm going to believe these moments of clarity make us a little better.  The go-go-go simply isn't possible - or maybe it just isn't good for us.  But honesty is.  And supporting each other is.  

YOU ARE DYNAMITE. And I nodded along with all of your 'sometimes'... :) 


JoeCardillo
JoeCardillo

This is good timing to hear, I'm trying to get used to a new job and the start-up life and totally fluctuating between high and low with not much in-between. 

The hardest thing in the world for me is leaving something unfinished, or a detail un-done. I'm learning to prioritize the biggest things and let go of the other stuff. Truthfully, when I measure myself against my own standard, I always end up thinking "man, I really suck" ......but it's not about being great or being terrible, it's about being BETTER. Every day. Not to be too schadenfreude-y, but it's really comforting to know that folks like y'all who are crazy smart and successful have the same problem. Whew. 


DanielleSmithTV1
DanielleSmithTV1

I love everything about this.  EVERYTHING.  Thank you for adding your words and your heart to mine today.  I'm so grateful.  There is something so.... so AWESOME about knowing we all have these moments - the napping, non-exercising, bad-eating, immobile, I-guess-I'll-check-Facebook-instead moments.  I'm going to believe these moments of clarity make us a little better.  The go-go-go simply isn't possible - or maybe it just isn't good for us.  But honesty is.  And supporting each other is.  

YOU ARE DYNAMITE. And I nodded along with all of your 'sometimes'... :) 

Corrie B
Corrie B

Yee haw. Let the honest times roll!!  I always find that when I'm the most honest and direct about how I really feel/what I really think, the action steps to move forward become crystal. F*cking. Clear. 

And. Ya know. Clarity is scary sometimes. (Until, it's not.)